“You said take your time and talk to other celebrants too. That was generous. But we didn’t need to. Having talked to you we knew we just clicked with you. The laughter made all the difference!”
Finding out more about you is fun, too. My conversations with couples happen in all sorts of places and in all sorts of ways, but a sense of humour is always present. I’ve met couples in hotel rooms, at high-end venues with champagne on tap, through wedding planners, by Skype and Facetime, in caravans, eating cake and drinking coffee in my office, or sat under blankets with my feet toasting on a hot water bottle in a to-be-renovated cottage, or walking on the beach followed by hot chocolate in my campervan. I’ll ask you ridiculous questions and you’ll tell me the most ridiculous things that have happened to you, as well as the most significant.
‘The rationale for all this is for me to locate the ‘inner you’ that your people will recognise and then write a ceremony that tells your true story. The one about who you are. As I often say in the ceremony – ‘I don’t make this stuff up you know’! I often ask couples if I can contact family and friends for a bit of a back story – those softer details, the memories from people who know what makes you tick are what brings a ceremony to life. The best feedback I can get is when on the day a guest says to me “you really got them’. Result!,
The ability to be curious, to engage, to listen, to empathise, to ask the right questions (but not too many); the willingness to wait for your true story to reveal itself – and then the ability to write and to engage your guests in what emerges in the telling, is what differentiates a good celebrant from a great celebrant! When you meet one, you’ll know the difference.
Together we create a memorable day .
I find out more about you, we talk lots, you tell me about what love means to you – it might be this person, or your child, your family or your plans.
Whatever love means to you, we put a spotlight on it. It becomes the main feature of your ceremony.
Being a Humanist celebrant is a cross between being a good listener, a thought explorer, a dream weaver, a writer and a performer!
If you are looking for a celebrant who takes the time, who knows how to laugh, and who you can trust – then look no further.